the connection between human and [human]ity

The connection between human and [human]ity

 

Most humans and some other forms of life typically feel things such as grief/guilt, shame/embarrassment, fear/despair, suicidal/lonely, stage fright/social anxiety, and jealousy/envy. Though some people do NOT feel these feelings.

There IS a logical reason for why you may not feel the same way towards things like death or loss as those around you. It is a simple "product result" that most people feel certain ways, and if you do not experience certain things in your life you will not be capable of the emotions that make someone human.

In order to feel guilt or even start the five stages of grief you must first go through four phases in your life. You must have something or someone you love or cherish, you must have something or someone you need to protect, you need something or someone who/that loves and/or cherishes you, and you need to have someone or something that relies on you.

Guilt comes when we do something that causes harm of some kind to another person or thing. The guilt is felt when you feel you have done wrong, but cannot be experienced if one does not have anyone or anything they are afraid of losing. The guilt is felt when one worries about the person or thing they have harmed and fears repercussion for their actions. Guilt comes when we do wrong and feel it should be made right. Grief cannot be fully felt unless you have something that you are afraid of losing that you will one day lose.

Shame is a feeling similar to guilt, but is only felt when one gets caught in the act of doing something wrong. Shame is felt when one worries that by being caught they will be punished. Of course this leads through the stages of grief as a result of one trying to avoid punishment. Usually this ends with the accepting of the punishment, however, shame is usually felt by one with no conscience while guilt is felt by one without a moral compass and logic.

Embarrassment is the feeling that someone will make fun of you or think things about you. It comes when one does something stupid or is wrong about something. However, it is impossible to feel ANY embarrassment if you have no pride. Only by being exposed to a situation where you lose your sense of pride can you then become embarrassed. As a result if you have completely lost your entire sense of pride and dignity then you can never again become embarrassed, feel guilt, become afraid, or even feel stage fright.

Eventually the lack of guilt, embarrassment, pride, or the inability to experience grief will lead one to a state of despair and loneliness. In this state we are at our most vulnerable as we will take even the least bit of attention. Some resort to crime for attention while others my try to hurt themselves or others. In a state of despair and loneliness we will do things to people we would normally never do. As a result we tend to take rejection VERY hard while in this state.

Despair is the feeling of deep depression bundled with an inferiority complex and fear that we will lose EVERYTHING. This typically leads to one of three outcomes: the realization that we have dropped so far that we cannot get any lower, the thought that while we have nothing to lose we have everything to gain, or that we have fallen so far that we could never climb back up and as such just let the gravedigger fill in our grave (commit suicide). In this time we usually seek for one of three sources for help. The church (god), our friends or family (peers), or science and understanding (self help books and seminars and/or mother nature). 

Social anxiety comes when we are surrounded by people we don't know and we do not know how to act around them. Usually we wish to make a positive first impression and our worries that we might be made fun of create strange behavior so that if we do something wrong people don't know whether we are crazy or just nervous.

Jealousy and envy are unique in that it is impossible to feel them if you live a fulfilling life or you have no sense of pride or guilt. We envy others and the things they have because we feel jealous of them. Usually the thing we are jealous of is not the money or cost, but rather the joy they feel using their possessions. The fact is that if one lives a happy life then one cannot experience jealousy or envy.

Women envy more attractive men for the same reason men envy attractive women: we aren't satisfied happily with the person we are with. It’s nothing to do with sex, looks, money, or possessions; it’s actually that we look at more attractive women/men and are reminded of the time when we and/or our partners used to look that young and attractive. Jealousy and envy are caused by a lack of happiness and a fear of aging and dying.

Emotions are like a chain of rubber bands; if you cant feel one, the entire chain slowly falls apart. Eventually we are left with a pile of rubber bands we have no idea what to do with.